Re: What is Love?

I've been doing a lot of research on the linguistic term, LOVE. I learned a great deal following my research and I want to share it with you.

So I ask again, what is love?

Love is not in how we feel but in how we act. Love is a verb. It has to do with actions. It goes deeper than the possessiveness. Than the bouts of jealousy. Than the physical attraction. Love is spiritual. It is far from emotional. That is why love drives insane. It is also why love turns the wisest of men into fools. Love humbles you. It reforms you. You want to be better for love. You want to be worthy of love. Love is a silent call. Only the chosen hear it. Love reaches out to the soul.

Love is giving. It's giving and giving. Love is also receiving. It's receiving and receiving. Love strikes a perfect balance between giving and taking. Love transforms you. Love disables your ego and mocks your pride. Love strengthens and love weakens. Love makes you feel invincible. It also makes you more aware of reality than you'll ever be. Love is hard work. Love is simple. Love is gentle. Love is scolding. Love is hot and love is cold.

Love is beautiful. Love is real. Love is ethereal and love is supernatural. Love is precious. Love is priceless. Love is expensive. Love is cheap. Love is God and God is love. Love is yes and love is no. Love is tough. Love is vulnerable. Love is 2 people making a conscious effort to stay together even on those days they just want to walk away from it all. When the euphoria of physical attraction and overwhelming emotionss fade, we're left with either love or indifference. Love makes you go that extra mile you normally wouldn't.

Love isn't easy. You do not fall in love with someone. After your initial attraction to them, you make a decision to love them. Love is an investment of time, body, soul, intellectual gifts, emotional capabilities, gifts and so much more. Love is like a fire. You keep adding more wood and fanning intermittently so it doesn't die out. Love focuses not only on your partner's emotional growth but spiritual growth as well(and no, I do not mean religion). Love is....so many different things all at once. Love is full.

Love is what kept my grandparents together for 56 years and my parents together for 26 years. Love is what makes a man and woman take on the journey of a lifetime together. It is what makes them build a house and make that house a home. It is what makes them long for children as evidence of that love.

Love is so much more than the occasional gifts on valentine's day. It is getting a gift for no reason on a normal day. It is in that unexpected hug given just for being there. It is in taking the time to listen when your partner talks. It is in encouraging each other to grow and achieve your goals. It is in standing by each other through thick or thin. It is in shutting out the world from time to time and focusing on each other. It is in learning to understand each other's body language. It is in doing tiny, beautiful things for each other. It is always the little things that make a difference.

Love is waking up beside that man/woman you vowed to spend the rest of your life with and knowing you're the luckiest person on earth(even if you went to bed mad at each other). Eventually, your heart will stop skipping when he enters a room. With time, you might not have blood rush to your brain when she walks across a room. What you will have is a feeling of pride(he/she is mine) and contentment. At the end of the day, you want to be with that person that makes tomorrow look like a piece of cake!!!

Many waters cannot quench love. - King Solomon

For the singles; You cannot truly love another unless you've learned to love yourself. So, treat yourself to a nice time occasionally. Have fun. Show yourself some love. You deserve it. You're worth loving. Stay strong. I love you guys the bestest because you're the bravest in my books...

With love,
Adupeola