Posts

Showing posts from August, 2016

Who Should Say, "I Love You" First? - 2

In my last post, I answered the first part of the question by stating that in my opinion it doesn't and should not matter who says "I love you" first. Women are more in tune with their emotions so it would make sense if they said it first. But then again, my last beau claimed to have loved me from the first moment he set his eyes on me! So, either gender can say it first. Now for the second part of the question. Can professing your love first turn a casual relationship into a serious one? Hmm...this is my question; if you wanted a serious relationship, why the hell did you settle for a casual one? I understand that so many times people opt for causal relationships but not everyone can handle that. No matter how casual it is, one party is bound to get hurt and that's almost always the female. If you feel you can handle a casual relationship, go for it. Just don't let it drag on for too long or you'll start to catch feelings. Do not get stuck in that kinda web.…

Who Should Say, "I Love You" First?

I swear...I just tire for this game of love sef! I got a funny mesage this mornig. First of all, playing games will get you nowhere. It only leads to doubt and confusion. I know from personal experience. I always have a strategy. I always see my plans through and even when things are going my way, I already see the end very clearly. It's not worth the hassles. Back to the message of this morning. My lady friend asked me who should profess love first in a relationship and if professing love would turn a casual relationship into a serious one. I'll answer the first part of the question first. Honestly, I do not know who should and I  don't even think it should matter either ways. I am a kind of person who finds mincing words inconvenient. So, if I loved someone...I'd just blurt it out and damn the consequences. But then again, I've only ever done that once before and never again after that(not that I had a bad experience{not saying I had a good one either}, I just wa…

An Open Letter To Every Hidden Woman Within.

Dear Woman Within,You exist deep within every woman. You are the hidden card they use in trumping life's battles. The life of a woman is complicated and the complications vary. I learned early never to underestimate the strength of any woman. No matter how weak our dispositions, we all have a lioness, an Amazon warrior hidden underneath.I might not be the most sisterly of women, but I have always wondered, sympathized and been emotionally a part of the plights of sisters everywhere. Everything you've gone through, all your experiences, good and bad all come together to make you the wonderful being that you are today.We stand tall not because we haven't had our share of embarrassing situations, but despite them. We keep going not because we never fall but because we rise after every fall. We withstand the pain of all life throws our way. We pick ourselves up and start to climb again. In today's world, it's still not very easy being a woman. Women are still being dis…

"Tough Times Never Last ,But Tough People Do!"

In today's post I'll be borrowing Dr. RobertH. Schuller's book title, Tough Times Never Last, But Tough People Do! I feel like I can relate to this. I have had a lot of tough times visit me in my very short lifetime. I want to complain and then I remember that some people probably have it so much more worse. I am amazed by the kind of mountains and oceans tough people scale and sail over. It was Franklin D. Roosevelt that said, "a smooth sea never made a skilled sailor..." I agree. If life were a bed of roses, we wouldn't learn anything. Success would become a myth and people would die young. We would stop hoping for tomorrow and have no reason to live past today. I had to grow up a little bit more to understand why my mum was so worried that I'm hardly self-motivating. So she pushed and pushed and then I started to pull back. I wish I had just allowed myself to move a bit when she pushed back then. Honestly, I have had days that I felt I had no reason to…

How Do You Know If It's Love?

Do not be decieved by the title of this post. I do not intend to tell you how to figure out when it's really love. On the contrary, I'm looking to find out the answer of that question myself. I think I know the text-book answer but something tells me that in this case as well as in other cases like it, the theory is not has in depth as the practical. I feel like I've retrogressed a bit. Emotionally and psychologically. I honestly do not get why I can't just be as objective about this as I tend to be about other matters of the heart. What if it is love and you refuse to accept it for what it truly is? Love can not be quantified. It cannot be gauged or measured. So, how then can you know if it is truly love?Is it when you care about the other party? I doubt that theory works for me. I tend to care about everyone in my life. I'm a caring person. So...caring about someone doesn't mean I love them. Is it when you worry about them when you don't hear from them(ev…

Love At First Sight; Myth or Fact??

The french call it "coup de foudre...". This french expression has a literal and figurative meaning. Literally, it means a bolt of lightning. Figuratively, it means love at first sight. Having read quotes from a good number of authors claiming love at first sight hits you like a bolt of lightning, I think both meanings suit the expression quite well. Now, before I go on, I must remind you all that I am not in the least bit cynical(atleast I would like to think that I'm not). I believe in love. I believe in it's power. I believe in it's potency. I believe it disproves logical explanations. I believe it has a little magic in it. I believe in everything I've heard about love. Deeply. Completely. Utterly. I just don't believe in love at first sight(a girl has got to draw a line somewhere). Nothing short of a personal experience will make me believe in love at first sight.I know for a fact that what most people refer to as love at first sight is lust. At the v…