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"Why Are You Still Single?"

Lol...if I had $50 for everytime I've been asked that question ehn...I would be the proud owner of the Indian Ocean(given the current ratio of dollar-naira and assuming they let me pay in naira and the fact that the Indian Ocean might actually be for sale)! I get the rationale behind the question. Sometimes I ask myself the very same thing too. How can I confidently and successfully(mostly) solve other people's relationship issues and still be single myself?The answer is quite simple. Well, maybe not overly simple since I've got more than one answer to the question. The fact is I am a woman of contradictory personality traits. These contradictory traits affect everything I do. That's why it might surprise some that I am just as practical as I am idealistic. My practicality helps me out in my choosen niche and path in life. And my idealism is the reason why nothing less than perfect is forgivable by me. That's why forgiving myself is like attempting to climb the hig…

More On Spousal Abuse And Domestic Violence

By now you should know that I am an advocate for eradicating domestic violence in our homes. I wish that some day soon we see the end of this disease that has taken away so much from our societies. The truth about domestic violence is that it is usually a recurring cycle...a vicious one at that. Most people that are victims or perpetrators of this crime(because it is a crime), come from homes where abuse and domestic violence was rampant and a norm. These people grew up believing this is the norm and go in search of such dysfunction in their own lives as well. The thing is, it sometimes leads to their death. I cannot emphasize enough how urgent it is for you to get out of an unhealthy relationship. It is bad for you in every way. Spiritually, emotionally and physically.I wanted to write this post a few days ago since I read about that lawyer who slit her husband's throat. But I didn't because i had to get to the point where my fingers stopped trembling when I thought about it.…

Adupeola's Valentine Present For Her Readers

Once again I would like to tender my apologies for not writing for a while. Life got in the way...also I got a bit overwhelmed and just needed a break from everything. I'm sure you understand. You're the best kind of readers.I would also like to appreciate everyone who noticed the lull and queried me about it. I appreciate your caring and worrying about me. I'm good. Even if I wasn't back then...by now you should know Adupeola always bounces back. I always manage to land on my feet! Lol...Anyway, it's that time of the year again. Some are sighing, some are groaning and some are excited and filled with anticipation. I'm sure you know what category I fall into. Lol...it's the season of love again people...Valentine's day is just around the corner. This is not my favorite time of the year because I feel this season promotes hypocrisy and fake love(but that's just my opinion). Mum seems to think that one day, I'll meet someone who will make me see t…