Alpha Males: Mark!!!

I've been getting emails asking me to delve into my series; Alpha Males again. I thought about it, and I decided it wasn't a bad idea. Afterall, where's the fun in having all these stories and then keeping them to myself or within my tight-knit group of friends. Fine men should be talked about. It's the female way!

Till date, he's my favorite Alpha Male. Unlike with the rest, I actually let myself develop feelings for Mark(real name withheld by me). I should probably start with how we met. First I must state that I'm a pretty good cook, I just prefer to eat out. Cooking is a special activity. Sigh...I'm lazy, so I prefer not to cook if I can eat out. It was on one of such days that I met Mark. I know it looks like there's a pattern forming, ignore it. On this particular day, I wasn't interested in going to a fast food restaurant or regular restaurants. I was craving something completely African. I was craving me some Amala and Ewedu, topped with smoked catfish(eja dudu). So, I went in search of it, I found more than that though. 

It was fairly late so the customers were already dwindling down. I made my order and waited anxiously to be served. A couple of minutes after I was served, Mark made his entrance. He caught my eye because of his height, but I was definitely not interested. His walk screamed ego!!! And we all know there can never be 2 kings in one kingdom. My ego is probably just as big, it would be a dreadful mistake for us to form anything.  Eventually, our paths crossed and we got to talking. In summary, he left with my number. He didn't call me for 2 weeks. Then one day, he called. From that day on, we were almost inseparable. Keep in mind that I said almost. He was funny, cute, tall, sweet and had perfect manners. The only thing that bothered me was his job. I don't know what he did for a living, but I'm pretty sure it's something illegal. I liked him too much to ever truly let my curiosity get the best of me. Besides, I was a little scared it was one of those 'if I found out he would have to kill me jobs'.

I wasn't ready to die and I'm almost certain that if I found out, I would be on his side(keep in mind I said almost again). You know how we get once infatuation sets in. I was like that. He was my friend. I didn't venture into a full-on relationship with him, but on some level I considered him mine and therefore he was off limits. At least in my mind. He didn't necessarily feel the same way. What we had was funny and exciting. We didn't label it. It was safer that way. It was less stressful. It was so cool that I didn't have a problem with seeing him with other girls and he didn't mind seeing other men sniff around me. I don't believe in not going out on dates with other men before the man I'm with asks for exclusivity. I can't just hand over all my free time to one man that won't be doing the same for me.

On one of such dates, I ran into Mark or should I say he ran into me. I was out with this guy I was always friendly with but not really in to. He would never evolve from being just my friend. We hadn't seen each other in a while so we decided to hang out. We had been there for about 45 minutes before Mark walked in, accompanied by a lady, that wasn't me(obviously). The guy I was with, Bayo, happened to know Mark. He called him, he came over and he greeted him. I introduced myself and acted like I didn't know him. He behaved the same way. After he left, I asked Bayo how he knew Mark and he told me that Mark was like a big brother to a friend of his. I smiled and changed the topic.

After 30 minutes, Mark came back to my table and asked me if I was ready to go. Bayo was stupefied. I had to explain to him how I knew Mark and that he was okay with me being with him and all that. I remember saying, "we don't have that kind of a relationship". The following conversation took place between Mark and I in the car.

(Adupeola is A and Mark M incase you didn't already know that)

A: So, how did you get your lady friend to release you.

M: I told her you were crazy and insanely jealous. That I was your man and the guy with you is your brother.

A: And she believed you?(Scoff) So, is she the one?

M: I don't remember saying I was looking for the one. How did you make your excuses to your date?

A: That's not the answer to my question and you know it! Anyway, I told him you probably had a gun but I was yet to see it.

M: (laughed) I have a gun. Do you want to see it? It's not like other guns, it's better and you would love it. Wanna see it?

A: No! I don't want to see your gun...EVER!!!

M: (Smile) Liar.

(I'm sure most of you figured out that we weren't talking about the same gun. I had my definition and apparently he had his. Although, I still wonder if that was just a distraction)

Lol...I had so much fun with him. I still do when I see him. His driving taught me how to bargain and negotiate with God.  It's hard to explain my relationship with him to people especially anticipating boyfriends. Even girlfriends. Nobody believes that we're that close without anything else going on. I've gotten over my crush on him. I realized early that he wasn't emotionally available and wouldn't be for a while. Yes, he cared and still cares about me, but not enough to give me a string that attaches me to him. Mark is the love 'em and leave 'em type. I wasn't about to get involved with someone like that.

Every girl should meet a Mark once in a lifetime. I don't see him as much as I used to. I miss him often. He was my personal dare-devil.

I really enjoy writing about my Alpha Males. I don't know why I stopped. Lol!!!